Wednesday, January 04, 2006
Kyle avoids me like the plague. I wish he wouldn't, as when I try to seek him out I get manic. His bedroom is accessible only through our laundry room. Between Kyle and my wife that room is always a disaster - clothes all over the floor, junk everywhere. I just can't take it when I go in there, and Kyle knows that. I've asked them both to keep it picked up, but it goes in one ear and out the other. I think they do that just so I can't get to him. Damn, I'm getting upset just thinking about it. But I really wish he'd talk to me.
But things could be worse, they always can.
You mention that your son's girlfriend has a job... yet your son can't even hold down a job... how riduculous to think that other people are to blame for your son's downward spiral... not to mention irresponsible to try to take down innocent people who have probably given u'r son the benefit of the doubt when he largely needed a kick in the ass... your son probably needs the court order to stay away.. not that a person like him cares... he doesnt care enought to hold down a job.. would he care to even be embarassed with being served papers? people like you are clearly delusional to the truth.
Im sure that your son was largely overparented... take the time and google it.."overparenting" i bet you will see some similarities. its sad that you would get a court order on a person who more than likely cares about him and who has largely had to take the brunt of his anger. you're not taking it.. he's not even home according to you.. and when he is, he's not even talking to you.. have some empathy and sypmathy for his girlfriend.. the one person who he can probably go to and be himself with. He will never go to you, unless its for money or a place to eat... and im sure you will just hand it over... feeding his feelings that he doesnt have to be RESPONSIBLE for anything... im sorry, but its time for you and your wife to wake up and have some boundaries. clearly, your son has no respect for either of you nor anyone else... you might as well just buy his booze for him for all the "help" you are doing. take this as suggestion... get him and yourselves into counseling. throw away the pride and get real with yourselves.. especially the reality of who your son has turned out to be and the potential of what he can be once he gets his crap together. oh. and dont forget the "overparenting" im sure you will glean alot of information from that and see some similarities.